Decision making consists of pro/con lists, research, gut instinct and leaping; for me, anyway. Sometimes these steps are easy to work through, and some can even be skipped. Other times each step is painstakingly difficult. I like to think of myself as a good decision maker. I weigh the options, analyze the possible effects, but in the end I realize I have to decide on an option or route regardless of the fear-factor OR regardless of whether that decision is popular or not.
Let's see.....how can I make this post vague and cryptic while still getting my point across and hopefully making it universal to all situations where decisions need to be made? Here we go:
I want to specify this post to quick decisions. I'm not talking about job changes or making large purchases. The decisions I want to highlight are those that have to be made in a split second. Most of the time these types of decisions are actually judgment calls, on our part, and reflect our experience, morals and values, or lack thereof. They are also dangerous because a split second decision, one that requires more thought in less time, often end up affecting our lives long-term.
Recently, I was put in a position to make a decision over something seemingly simple and my decision was not what was expected. Knowing it wouldn't be expected or accepted, I considered for a milisecond to choose the easy option....easy in the moment, but not long-term. I took a deep breath, stood before those awating my decision and said, "You're going to think I'm an idiot but I can't do it. At this point in my life I really value myself and my choices more than I value your opinion or perception of me."
Now, the relationships are awkward but I realized today, as I am living the after effects of my decision how blessed I am to have confidence, not only in myself, but in what I believe. So much confidence, in fact, that I was able to make a sound and positive decision for myself despite adversity. I was able to easily draw from what I know to be correct. I'm not going to lie, I still feel anxious and a little nauseous from the stress and pressure of the situation, but confident nonetheless.
Vague enough for you? I hope in some way you can relate. I also hope that if you struggle with making decisions because of fear of what others will think, that you will be inspired to become confident enough to stand up for yourself and strong enough to deal with any repercussions.
I love this quote from Dr. Seuss. It came to me today when I was starting to doubt the decision I made:
"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."
I hope that those who are currently not happy about my decision will eventually be in the "those who matter category". I am giving them time to realize that they don't mind who I am and what I feel.