I planned on writing a funny post today and have been excitedly preparing it (it involves some Post-it Art :) ) but some recent events coupled with realizing that time keeps flying faster and faster has me in a retrospective mood.
I can see you all nodding when you read the statement Life is Messy. Even if your life is good and you skip through meadows and slide down rainbows, sometimes the rainbows explode and the debris rarely includes Skittles.
On a Facebook discussion about forgiveness and trust I stated my opinion and at one point, to counter another's opinion, stated, "Nothing is black and white. People make mistakes and have to live with the consequences." It's not an extremely deep statement, but the thought behind it was meaningful to me. Right after posting that, situations were launched into my life that would normally have caused me to get out my opinion stamp and start lableing......He did this so he is BAD. She did this, so she is SELFISH. They did this, so they are STUPID. We can't classify good and bad people, really. We can be both at any given time. I learned that this week and I really learned that today. Sometimes our actions are really, really terrible, but not because we are bad people.We made a ginormous mistake, an unfortuante judgment call, or were so deep in a lie or depressed or addicted......that we didn't think about the consequences and yet, here they are. Consequences. Here are the consequences that will change our lives forever. I wish I could really express in more detail what I'm talking about....but it's too much to get out.
This week, two acquaintances of mine made detrimental decisions that not only negatively affected the rest of their lives (or ended their life) but the lives of the people closest to them. Then, it rippled out to the friends and acquaintances of those people....and here I am, pondering it all. I am sitting back watching people hurt and mourn and I am now defending someone who could easily be labeled BAD. It's not that easy.
I guess I will end the post with this: I would really like to be able to take a situation, the facts and inferences associated with it and make a clear cut judgment about it and the people involved and wash my hands of it. This person was bad, this person was good, this person made roast beef and this person stayed home.....however, THIS person realized, once again, that life is messy and there's no perfect situation, no perfect ending; but hopefully there's some compassion.